Serenity

30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

“…love suffers long, and is kind…” 1 Cor. 13:4
“And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Phil. 4:19

Love indeed suffers long and is kind. As you consider your Encouragement Challenge, determine today that you will not say anything negative to or about your husband. Speak kindly to him with words of genuine encouragement.

If your husband is considerate of your needs, let him know that you have noticed. Thank him for his kindness and consideration. Thank the Lord that your husband knows how to be both tough and tender.

Sometimes it’s difficult for a man to be gentle, kind or tender - especially if he hasn’t had role models in these areas. If he’s not a considerate person, appeal to him for help without complaining. Let him know that it’s hard for you to handle some things alone. Then, when he moves in to help, don’t insist that he do it your way. Be glad that he is responding, and express your gratitude.

Ultimately, you can’t expect your husband to make you feel more secure, loved, etc. Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~Some of our worst fights have come out of David trying to “fix” things for me. When I have a problem with a situation or a person… he doesn’t mind be confrontational, and hitting the problem head-on, whereas, I would rather stick my head in the sand to make it go away. I know he means well, and this is his way of protecting me and taking care of me. I just wish I could fix some of HIS problems. He has an “attitude” right now — 13 drivers, and most of them seem to be pushing buttons right now. So, I am doing my best to listen, to comfort, and not mirror his attitude. He needs my support and encouragement more than ever right now, not my attitude, so I will continue to encourage him… even when he laughs at me now when I tell him that I love him. He understands now why, and I need to work on reprogramming him that my “I love you” s are genuine words of affection, and not a “buttering-up” for something I am wanting. I really really didn’t think I did that that much, but based on his reaction to those words, apparently it was enough times. I’m working on it though!

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